This is a question I get asked a lot...do the boys know and how are they handling it. From the beginning Bryan and I decided on holding off on telling them. I wanted to make sure that I had as much information before their lives completely changed. We made sure to let the schools know. My reasoning was that even if we hadn't officially told them kids are smart. I was constantly at doctors appointments, scans and crying. They knew something was going on but not the extent. Bryan and I didn't have a "plan" on how to tell the kids. It was right before baseball started. I was afraid someone would ask me how I was doing and the kids would over hear. I wanted them to find out from Bryan and I. But at the same time I wanted them to have the supports in place when we told them. It's something that no parent ever wants to tell their 5 and 8 year old. But it needed to be done. I'll never forget .... Bryan and I were upstairs folding and putting away laundry. I called the boys up and told them we needed to talk. I explained that mommy had been seeing a lot of doctors because I hadn't felt well. The doctors had found out I had cancer but they found a pill that would help me. I asked if they had any questions. Both boys sat quietly for a min. I explained that they were following mommy and I had scans every couple of months. Trent said he didn't want to know when my scans were that he would worry to much. Baelor looked to Trent for a reaction. Trent wasn't sure how to react. We made sure to let them know that they had the supports wherever they went. Both schools knew what was going on and completely wrapped their love and support around the boys. The following weekend I had a trip planned to see my nephews in a play. The kids were obviously excited and we let them know their cousins were always available to talk. The kids come up with random questions and random times. Baelor has been fixated on death and who is going to die first. The other day he was having an especially needy day. I tried to assure him I wasn't going anywhere...he looks at me with a straight face and says you won't be when you are underground. I try and keep the schools and friends parents updated. Trent asked that I not tell his baseball coaches because people look at him differently, I get it kid, I really do. And mommy is so sorry!!!
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