Regret

 

Let’s talk about regret. We all have done something or said something that we eventually regretted.  Going on a date to only be ghosted or worse sleeping with the guy who promised to call and never did-or worse took weeks to call and once you had finally moved on wanted to see you again. 

What about that outfit you thought you looked great in only to look at pictures years later and not know what you were thinking.  Or the time you went up to that guy to ask him out only to say something embarrassing.  Not taking the trip you really wanted to go on, or the job that you didn‘t apply for.  

Life is full of regrets when it shouldn’t be.  

I‘ll be honest there are things in my life that I have regretted.  I regret not coming out of the bathroom to say goodbye to my dad before I went to school that day and he went for walk.  I never did say goodbye to him in person. I regret that more than anything.  

I regret not asking for more tests when they told me there was something on my lungs when I had kidney stones.  I regret not asking more questions of my pcp and believing my pcp when they said I probably had covid and it was from that. 

I regret trusting others with my feelings when my gut told me not too.   I regret giving the second and third and fourth chances for people to change when I knew deep down they wouldn’t. I regret getting walked on and not standing up for myself.  I regret not returning phone calls sooner. Or pushing away friends that only have my best interest in heart.  

I regret not being able to apologize because I didn’t want to hurt my pride.  

There is one thing I don’t regret.  The life that I have made for myself. The husband that I married, the kids we are raising. I don’t regret making the friends that I have made and have kept close.  I don’t regret the times I have lent an ear or given a hug to someone that was going through a tough time.  

Im sure we all have regrets in our lives. Regrets of our pasts and will have some in our future.  But stay true to yourself and your regrets will be less!  

Remember: “Regret is a tough but fair teacher. To live without regret is to believe you have nothing to learn, no amends to make, and no opportunity to be braver with your life.”